Notice the Yes-ses – Candelaria Silva-Collins for Parent 411

One of the first and loudest words toddlers say is the word, NO!
I don’t think this is just because it’s easy to pronounce.  They grab that word because they hear it so much from parents and other adults in their world.
No! No! No!
Don’t!

It’s important for parent to learn to notice the yes-ses children do and to say the word YES more. 
Yes is a great tool for giving balance to our view of our children’s behaviors and to their view of the world.  Yes is an affirmation.  Yes is positive.

• “Yes! You put your clothes in the hamper.”
• “Yes, you drank all your juice.”
• “Yes! You held open the door for Mommy. Thank you.”

It is powerful and affirming to tell a child what to do as opposed to what not to do.  This is positive discipline as opposed to negative discipline. 

The Parent411 workshop, Effective and Loving Discipline, shares positive discipline techniques.  It is offered as a single session overview and an in-depth 4-session series.  You can bring this workshop to your daycare, school or community group.  Contact us at: Parent411@gmail.com

Upcoming:
Parent411 trainer, Candelaria Silva-Collins, will facilitate a presentation, The Language of Self-Esteem, on Friday, April 1, 2011 (10:00am) at Old Country Buffet in the Watertown Mall.  This presentation is free.  Call 617/926-4968 for more information.