The Language of Self Esteem is part of the Health Lecture Series sponsored by Watertown Mall.
The one-hour workshop starts at 10a.m. in the Old Country Buffet.* It is free.
Candelaria Silva-Collins, a Parent411 trainer, has designed this presentation for parents and caregivers. It will look at language – how the words we use every day can build or deflate a child’s sense of their self-worth. Words can encourage children to try new things, work through challenges, and recognize their value and place within our families and the world.
The language and actions that foster positive self-esteem have to be grounded in a child’s everyday environment. This interactive presentation will discuss the language of self-esteem and give participants tools to use positively powerful language while parenting children. It will be helpful to parents of children of all ages – infant to young adults.
Registration is not required. For more info contact Parent411@gmail.com
*Free Blood Pressure Screenings will be available from 10am-12pm as well.
The Watertown Mall is locatd at 550 Arsental Street in Watertown, Massachusetts.
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Go Slow to Go Fast
Do you give yourself and your children enough time to get out the door in the morning or get ready for their appointments? Do you rush to prepare or serve dinner immediately upon entering the door in the evening?
Rushing can often lead to mishaps and meltdowns (parents and/or children). One technique that helps in these situations is to “go slow to go fast.” I first heard this phrase at a training workshop for facilitators. It resonated with me immediately and I have used it in many areas of my life, including my parenting.
Going slow means focusing on the job at hand, doing things in precise movements, setting the routine so that you can later move quickly.
Tips:
• Waking a child up 15 minutes to ½ hour earlier gives them the meandering time many need in order to “get to getting” (ready).
• Using a timer to establish a limit for the meandering/free time makes it clear when it’s time to get on task with getting dressed, eating breakfast, etc. Some kids really respond to “beat the clock.”
• Giving a child 10-15 minutes of undivided attention upon entering your home after a long-day, will buy you undisturbed time to “change into your Mommy uniform” and get on with the evening routine.
Candelaria Silva-Collins for Parent411
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Parent411 workshops are chock-full of tools, techniques, strategies, interaction and fun. Visit our website to see our current workshops and to learn about our workshops for parents and professionals who work with parents (http://parent-411.com/). Email us at parent411@gmail.com to have us bring a workshop to you.
Rushing can often lead to mishaps and meltdowns (parents and/or children). One technique that helps in these situations is to “go slow to go fast.” I first heard this phrase at a training workshop for facilitators. It resonated with me immediately and I have used it in many areas of my life, including my parenting.
Going slow means focusing on the job at hand, doing things in precise movements, setting the routine so that you can later move quickly.
Tips:
• Waking a child up 15 minutes to ½ hour earlier gives them the meandering time many need in order to “get to getting” (ready).
• Using a timer to establish a limit for the meandering/free time makes it clear when it’s time to get on task with getting dressed, eating breakfast, etc. Some kids really respond to “beat the clock.”
• Giving a child 10-15 minutes of undivided attention upon entering your home after a long-day, will buy you undisturbed time to “change into your Mommy uniform” and get on with the evening routine.
Candelaria Silva-Collins for Parent411
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Parent411 workshops are chock-full of tools, techniques, strategies, interaction and fun. Visit our website to see our current workshops and to learn about our workshops for parents and professionals who work with parents (http://parent-411.com/). Email us at parent411@gmail.com to have us bring a workshop to you.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Notice the Yes-ses – Candelaria Silva-Collins for Parent 411
One of the first and loudest words toddlers say is the word, NO!
I don’t think this is just because it’s easy to pronounce. They grab that word because they hear it so much from parents and other adults in their world.
No! No! No!
Don’t!
It’s important for parent to learn to notice the yes-ses children do and to say the word YES more.
Yes is a great tool for giving balance to our view of our children’s behaviors and to their view of the world. Yes is an affirmation. Yes is positive.
The Parent411 workshop, Effective and Loving Discipline, shares positive discipline techniques. It is offered as a single session overview and an in-depth 4-session series. You can bring this workshop to your daycare, school or community group. Contact us at: Parent411@gmail.com
Upcoming:
Parent411 trainer, Candelaria Silva-Collins, will facilitate a presentation, The Language of Self-Esteem, on Friday, April 1, 2011 (10:00am) at Old Country Buffet in the Watertown Mall. This presentation is free. Call 617/926-4968 for more information.
I don’t think this is just because it’s easy to pronounce. They grab that word because they hear it so much from parents and other adults in their world.
No! No! No!
Don’t!
It’s important for parent to learn to notice the yes-ses children do and to say the word YES more.
Yes is a great tool for giving balance to our view of our children’s behaviors and to their view of the world. Yes is an affirmation. Yes is positive.
- “Yes! You put your clothes in the hamper.”
- “Yes, you drank all your juice.”
- “Yes! You held open the door for Mommy. Thank you.”
The Parent411 workshop, Effective and Loving Discipline, shares positive discipline techniques. It is offered as a single session overview and an in-depth 4-session series. You can bring this workshop to your daycare, school or community group. Contact us at: Parent411@gmail.com
Upcoming:
Parent411 trainer, Candelaria Silva-Collins, will facilitate a presentation, The Language of Self-Esteem, on Friday, April 1, 2011 (10:00am) at Old Country Buffet in the Watertown Mall. This presentation is free. Call 617/926-4968 for more information.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Parenting Adult Children: Sometimes Silence is most effective
I have found silence to be an effective way to engender communication with my adult children.
I first stumbled upon this technique when my daughter, the eldest, was in college and was being rude when I called to check in on her.She would talk to me distractedly, act annoyed as though I was bothering her, hold side conversations with her roommates and visitors, etc. It seemed that I was always interrupting something and catching her at the wrong time.
I tried to set up a regular time to check-in with her, hoping this would make her more receptive but this didn’t work, in part because of the spontaneity of dorm life and in part because she was trying to become her own woman and hadn’t yet realized she didn’t have to dis me to do so.
So one day, I stopped calling her and decided to wait for her to notice my silence, miss me and call me on her own. It was an agonizing three weeks until she called me.When she did, I listened to her news and chatter and didn’t try to extend the conversation. We had a better conversation than we’d had in a few months. Eureka, I thought, I’ve got something here!
Even since then, whenever I sense that she’s “not feeling me” or working through something she’s not yet ready to share, or very busy in her life, I give her space, sending a brief “have a good day” or “hope you are well, love you” message via text, email or voice mail.
It works wonders. She misses me. She calls me in her own time, on her own terms. The communication is richer because it is not forced. Keeping in touch with adult children occurs frequently and naturally for some families. For others of us, the communication is less frequent and can be fraught with drama. There can also be noticeable differences in the frequency and type of communication with different children. With both of my children, I've found silence to be a golden key that gives dividends in communication.
- Candelaria Silva-Collins
Parent411 Note:
Faina and I have lots of experience dealing with children of all ages. We like to share this in groups with parents and people who work with parents. Contact us at parent411@gmail.com to set up a workshop or facilitated conversation with your group. Visit the website: http://parent-411.com/
I first stumbled upon this technique when my daughter, the eldest, was in college and was being rude when I called to check in on her.She would talk to me distractedly, act annoyed as though I was bothering her, hold side conversations with her roommates and visitors, etc. It seemed that I was always interrupting something and catching her at the wrong time.
I tried to set up a regular time to check-in with her, hoping this would make her more receptive but this didn’t work, in part because of the spontaneity of dorm life and in part because she was trying to become her own woman and hadn’t yet realized she didn’t have to dis me to do so.
So one day, I stopped calling her and decided to wait for her to notice my silence, miss me and call me on her own. It was an agonizing three weeks until she called me.When she did, I listened to her news and chatter and didn’t try to extend the conversation. We had a better conversation than we’d had in a few months. Eureka, I thought, I’ve got something here!
Even since then, whenever I sense that she’s “not feeling me” or working through something she’s not yet ready to share, or very busy in her life, I give her space, sending a brief “have a good day” or “hope you are well, love you” message via text, email or voice mail.
It works wonders. She misses me. She calls me in her own time, on her own terms. The communication is richer because it is not forced. Keeping in touch with adult children occurs frequently and naturally for some families. For others of us, the communication is less frequent and can be fraught with drama. There can also be noticeable differences in the frequency and type of communication with different children. With both of my children, I've found silence to be a golden key that gives dividends in communication.
- Candelaria Silva-Collins
Parent411 Note:
Faina and I have lots of experience dealing with children of all ages. We like to share this in groups with parents and people who work with parents. Contact us at parent411@gmail.com to set up a workshop or facilitated conversation with your group. Visit the website: http://parent-411.com/
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